Dependency

Dependency. Why is it necessary. It isn't even practical. There is no need to ever grow dependent on anyone or anything, under any circumstances. One of the most important things in life is the ability to rely solely on yourself to provide anything you need. Other people are important, but you need to be focused solely within yourself. Your own happiness is the ultimate goal, and as experience has shown, happiness is based within the mind. it cannot be based on external stimuli and the pursuit of happiness, because that leads to either a lust for material possessions which will be taken to an extreme, or an over dependency on others when demanding free happiness. This is where relationships are flawed. Relationships force codependency. What happens when one person is more dependent than the other though? The balance of power tips, and the risk of emotional devastation increases exponentially. Emotions are fleeting and loyalty is nonexistent: there is no logical basis to tie yourself down to a single person and expect the same. The concept it is based on, the concept of trust, is just that, a concept. Trust can be lost in an instant. Trust is not a physical manifestation. Therefore it doesn't exist, it is no mere than a mere fantasy, a dream. Brainwashing yourself into accepting that true love exists is foolish. Love may exist, I'm not sure at this point. But the dependency associated with it is a sign of weakness. The issue of course is inherently embedded within the human condition, humans are flawed creatures and cannot help themselves. But the dependency associated with love demands perfection, and ultimately idealizes someone or even something to the point that an illusion cannot be maintained forever. Temptation is ever-lurking, and it's impossible to prevent someone else from accepting it. There is nothing wrong with undergoing the pain, because pain is a good thing. But this pain is senseless. The pain associated with betrayal teaches no lesson. And even if one is lucky enough to expose personal vulnerabilities and not be hurt, the fear of being hurt can torture a soul even worse. In a relationship the fear of being cheats on outweighs the shock of the act itself. In a government entitlement system, the fear the next check won't come outweighs the benefit. Now, the human response would either be to stress out, or turn a blind eye to the negatives. Neither of these work in the end. It's a joke. Dependency is. You cannot live life beholden to another. You don't need anyone else after you have developed, take care of your own ass. Be a self starter and take risks, because people have their own self-interests at heart. And depending on someone else for your happiness is a mistake. The best approach is the remain emotionally distant, inherently self-indulged, and noncommittal towards others. And people wonder why girls love narcissistic assholes.